I know so much about my clients, both athletically and personally. Not only do I know their 1 rep max Front Squat and their “Fran” time, but I also know about their struggle to care for their mother fighting cancer, I know how their husband proposed, I know that they are working two jobs to make ends meet, I know about the cheating wife, the monster-in-law, the traumatic childhood, the husband away on deployment, the daughter with special needs, the car accident that took away their parents, the daily struggles of being a single parent, the insecurities they have in a swimsuit, the demons that haunt them.
I know everything. Being a coach isn’t just about training people in fitness. It’s also about being a mentor and therapist in many ways.
I know when my clients are having a bad day, when they are sandbagging a workout, when they need me to yell at them, and when they need me to hug them. I know when I can push them, and when I need to back off. I know what drives them, and what pushes them away.
And, I have heard so many amazing stories. So many feats of courage. So many heartbreaks, tragedies, hardships, and downright sh***y things. And, believe it or not, sometimes it’s the person with the brightest smile and seemingly “perfect” life who has the saddest stories to tell.
So often, when a client pours her heart out to me, she then assumes that everyone else at our gym is living an awesome, carefree life. She thinks she has it harder than everyone else. She believes that no one else is going what she’s going through.
She feels alone.
I think this is why so many people often feel ashamed or embarrassed about their lives. They think they are the only ones going through whatever it is they are dealing with.
The grass always looks greener on the other side. And, many of us feel the need to put on a front and fake perfection in order to be like everyone else…When in actuality, we are all faking it, and we are all hurting inside.
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I can tell you, from firsthand experience, from ALLLLLLLL of the thousands of stories I have been told by hundreds of clients ~ YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!!
Heck, even I have sh***y days and a few demons lingering around. My life is not perfect by any means, and I still have hardships from time to time. Last year, I went to therapy for over a year to overcome a traumatic experience in high school. My father is a food addict with Diabetes Type II. My brother is an Alcoholic living with my parents. Spencer and I fight sometimes. I’ve yelled at Bailey before. I’ve done things that I am not proud of. I’ve said things to my mother as a teenager that I wish I could take back.
Sh** happens. Life happens.
You are not alone.
You don’t have to pretend. In fact, of all of the places, the CrossFit gym is the last place you need to put on a front and hide your life.
Why do you think we all come here, anyway?!! That’s right – To sweat out all that bullsh** from the day, to grunt out all the pain, to lift up our moods, to run off some steam, and to fight and support each other through it for that hour.
That one hour – We get to be together as one, and through all of our personal struggles, we get to escape our lives for that moment, and just be. We get to turn it off, and for that one hour we can be together as a family and help each other through it.
But, instead of directly helping someone through her nasty divorce, during the WOD you are helping her through those last 10 reps to prove to herself that she can not only get through the WOD itself, but she can also get through this divorce. By encouraging and supporting her through the workout, we are inadvertently supporting her through her tough time.
Running alongside a member in the last 400m, you are inadvertently telling him that you are by his side, both inside the gym and in life.
Cheering on a member during the workout, you are inadvertently helping her gain self-confidence.
The things we do for each other inside of the gym have a HUGE impact on our personal lives, whether we realize it or not.
So many people write about how CrossFit has saved their lives. But, the truth of the matter is, CrossFit has saved ALL of our lives in some way or another.
None of us have it worse. None of us have it better. It’s a relative thing. We all have struggles and hardships. We have all experienced difficult times at one point or another.
The question is ~ Are you going to be a victim, or are you going to be stronger?! I don’t like the word survivor, personally, because it implies a victim.
Remember that you truly are not alone in this world. You are not the only one. Don’t be embarrassed or ashamed. Don’t assume others have it better, either.
You have one of the best support systems ever ~ Your CrossFit family!
CrossFit is here with open arms.