Pay It Forward

downloadYesterday afternoon, one of my members/friend was on her last round of the WOD.

The WOD was 3 RFT: 30 Box Jumps, 20 SDLHP, and 30 Wall Balls.  Looks easy on paper, but catches up to you fast!

“Jenny” was on her last set of SDLHPs, and everyone else had finished already.  As she went over to her medicine ball, everyone crowded around to cheer her on to the finish.  After she fought through the first 20 Wall Balls, I grabbed a medicine ball and joined her on the remaining reps.

Cheering and being there for someone when they are fighting for the finish is always nice, but it’s even better when you can fight the good fight WITH them!  After all, we are here for SO much more than a bikini-ready body.  And, we definitely are not here to try to always beat each other and win everything.

Of course, Jenny was super appreciative of everyone sticking around, as well as for me doing the last 10 reps with her.  It’s an awesome feeling to know that you have friends/family at your gym who will struggle and feel pain with you!

I got to have the favor returned to me today.

Today’s WOD is: For Time ~ Buy In: 800m Run, then 4 Rounds: 10 KBS, 10 Push ups, 10 Pull ups, then Buy Out: 800m Run.

One of my members/friend, “Bill,” kept a strong pace for the first 800m run, and my goal was to simply keep him within arms-length of me the entire time.  He held a good 5 rep lead on me throughout the 4 rounds, but then I finally caught him on the last set of 10 pull ups.  My initial reaction was to sprint out the gates and try to gain as much of a lead on the run as possible, because I knew Bill would catch me at some point.

While in my mind I was competing with Bill, he had other plans.  It only took him about a minute to catch up to me, and we were side by side at 200m.

I expected and waited for him to pass me by, and part of me was frustrated that I couldn’t beat him.  But, then, I quickly realized that he was pacing me.  He stayed with me the entire time, pushing me along, encouraging me, and made me run harder than I would have on my own.

In all honesty, if Bill had passed me by and beat me, I probably would have just paced the remainder of the run and finished semi-strong.  I kind of think Bill knew that about me, too. 😉

So, we ran hard together for the next 400m, and then in the last 200m, we paced the first 100m, and then sprinted hard for the last 100m, finishing together at the exact same time.

It was an awesome and humbling experience.  Bill did something for me that many of us forget to do for each other ~ He sacrificed his “best time” and the “win” to be with me.  He put his teammate’s needs in front of his own.  Bill pulled back just enough to help me be a better athlete, and to make me believe in myself in the last 200m.

“The greatness of a man is not in how much wealth he acquires, but in his integrity and his ability to affect those around him positively.” ~ Bob Marley

So, here is a reminder to all of you CrossFitters and non-CrossFitters out there ~ Be kind, and pay it forward.  Your kindness will go a lot further than you could ever imagine.  One good turn deserves another, and can be an awesome domino effect in this world.

Bill reminded me today of a very important lesson.  It’s easy to go back for the others when you’re already done with your workout, and it’s not too much more to join them on the last few reps.  But, to do the workout side-by-side with them to push them further than they originally thought possible, to be willing to slow down a little bit to bring them up, and to finish together, rather than in 1st and 2nd place – Now THAT is a true display of sportsmanship, friendship, and integrity.

We make each other better together.

Thanks Bill! 😉

Pay It Forward.

Inner Peace

brain-machine1“Dont sacrifice your peace trying to point out someone’s true colors.  Lack of character always reveals itself in the end.” ~ Mandy Hale

I saw this quote the other day on a friend’s Instagram, and it really hit home.  It strangely lifted a huge weight off of my shoulders.

For as long as I can remember, even at the young age of maybe 4 or 5, I felt the need to confront and call people out on their wrong doing.  I could never keep my mouth shut about it, could not for the life of me look the other way, and I definitely could not let it go until the wrong doer was announced in public and held accountable for his/her actions.

I grew up watching “The Brady Bunch,” and numerous other feel-good, lesson-learned type shows and movies.  The good guy always won.  The bad guy always lost.  In the end, it was always best to be honest and fair.  It was this perfect, idealistic bubble that I lived in.  And…I thought that was real life growing up.

So, whenever someone cheated, lied, or was abusive or unfair in some way, whether it was directed towards me or someone I cared about, I had to pick a fight and stand up to the culprit.  And, I had to make sure everyone else knew what he/she did that was so wrong.

I could never understand why others did not live by the same values and morals as I did.  And, I eventually grew up angry and resentful of people.

The hard truth is ~ Sh***y people really do not care at all that they are sh***y.

All of my past confrontations ended with zero resolution and closure.  Sure, I got to have my say, but I never felt like I actually “won,” and the culprit was still an a**hole.

It didn’t change anything.

So, what’s the lesson?

Let it go.

Move on.

No matter where I go, no matter what I do or say, no matter how honest and awesome I am, no matter how old we get, and no matter how hard I try…People will sh** on me at one time or another.

It’s an inevitable part of human life.

People come and go.  Some are good.  Some are bad.

But, instead of taking on every single battle, I need to just accept the fact that this person is not purposeful in my life, and let it go.

When I get angry, I am letting that a**hole win.  It’s like that quote states so well, “Holding on to a grudge is letting someone live rent free in your head.”

It’s exhausting letting all of those a**holes live rent free in my head.

It’s time for some inner peace.

I am not the Integrity Police, so I need to stop acting like one.

If someone isn’t of the same moral standards as I am, then I can remove myself from the relationship and find those that are.

I cannot change or control people.  I can’t fix stupid.  And, I definitely cannot get anywhere with a sociopath.

I can only change and control me.

I think all too often, a lot of us spend way too much time trying to change and control each other, which is why so many of us are frustrated, resentful, angry, and exhausted.

If we put as much energy as we do trying to change each other into actually changing ourselves, just imagine how much you would accomplish and how awesome you would be!

I am at a point in my life that I have finally decided to walk away from dysfunction.  I have given up the monumental responsibility of being the Integrity Police, and I will let karma and time work things out, like they always do so beautifully.

What a huge sense of relief.  For about the past week, I have truly had a clear mind.  It was like I did a huge spring cleaning in my head ~ Threw out all of the garbage, re-organized, wiped and dusted, and cleared out everything that has been taking up space for far too long!

No more free rent. 😉

If you want awesome in your life, than you have to BE awesome.  So, now that I’ve finished the “spring cleaning,” it’s time for me to start living by my own standards and values, and let the rest filter itself out.

Here’s to a new outlook on life, people, and myself!